Sunday, 29 November 2015

DALE CARNEGIE - HOW TO STOP WORRYING

2015-48:  Dale Carnegie - How to Stop Worrying

Self-Help Messiah Dale Carnegie [1888-1955]



Dale Carnegie was born in 1888, Maryville, Missouri, USA and was educated at Warrensburg State Teachers College. As a salesman and aspiring actor, he traveled to New York and began taking 'public-speaking' classes for adults at the YMCA. 

In 1912, the world famous Carnegie Course in Effective Speaking and Human Relations was born. He authored several bestsellers, including, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, and “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.” Over 50 million copies of Mr. Carnegie's books have been printed and published in scores of languages. 




Dale Carnegie's Summary of 

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living




Part 1:  Fundamental facts you should know about worry
  1. Live in "day-tight compartments." 

    1. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?
    2. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
    3. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
  2. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. 
Part 2:  Basic techniques in analyzing worry
  1. Get the facts. 
  2. After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
  3. Once a decision is carefully reached, get busy carrying out your decision.
  4. When you worry about a problem, write out answers for the following questions:
    1. What is the problem?
    2. What is the cause of the problem?
    3. What are all possible solutions?
    4. What is the best solution?
Part 3:  How to break the worry habit before it breaks you
  1. Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. 
  2. Don't fuss about trifles. 
  3. Ask yourself: "What are the odds against this thing's happening at all?"
  4. Co-operate with the inevitable. Say to yourself: "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
  5. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth--and refuse to give it anymore.
  6. Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust.
Part 4:  7 ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace & happiness
  1. Fill the mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope.
  2. Never waste a minute thinking about people you don't like.
  3.  
    1. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, expect it. 
    2. Remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.
    3. Remember that gratitude is a "cultivated" trait and train.
  4. Count your blessings--not your troubles!
  5. Do not imitate others. Find yourself and be yourself.
  6. When fate hands out a lemon, make a lemonade.
  7. Do good to others. "When you are good to others, you are best to yourself."
Part 5:  The perfect way to conquer worry
  1. Prayer
Part 6:  How to keep from worrying about criticism
  1. Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. No one ever kicks a dead dog.
  2. Do the very best you can; and keep out of the rain of criticism.
  3. Keep a record of the fool things you have done and criticize yourself. 
Part 7:  6 ways to prevent fatigue & worry and keep your energy and spirits high
  1. Rest before you get tired.
  2. Learn to relax at your work.
  3. Learn to relax at home.
  4. Apply these four good workings habits:
    1. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
    2. Do things in the order of their importance.
    3. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts to make a decision.
    4. Learn to organize, deputize, and supervise.
  5. To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
  6. Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not the insomnia.
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